you don’t want to be named as anybody’s girlfriend, and now you’re someone’s wife? *

Dear Margaret (x 2),

Sorry for bothering you again, as if my first letter to you wasn’t enough.  But I just caught wind of the fact that you are now engaged, of course I heard it via facebook.  I figure as your first boyfriend I deserved you flying to me and at least telling me face to face.  Ok, a phone call? Then again I guess if you had a list of people to call directly about your great news, I would rank somewhere between 87th and 1,060th, so I understand.


We were never really this happy anyway...Photo Courtesy of NYTimes



Let’s get the obvious out of the way first – congratulations.  I mean that from the bottom of my heart.  You were my first ‘girlfriend,’ so it’s not as if I hold some grudge that goes back 15 years.  We were friends throughout high school, and have kept in touch just enough for me to know that you deserve all the happiness that has come to you recently, and is coming your way in the future.  That’s really it…and yes I realize the quote doesn’t exactly fit – since it wasn’t the label of girlfriend you didn’t like, it was more about me trying to kiss you with cheese in my braces; and you aren’t someone’s wife quite yet.  You will be though, soon, and I couldn’t be happier for you.

Though I guess I do regret I never actually got to kiss you,

If you invite me, please place me next to some hot bridesmaids…


* 500 Days of Summer

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5 Responses to “you don’t want to be named as anybody’s girlfriend, and now you’re someone’s wife? *”

  1. December 3, 2010 at 3:51 pm

    Seems a bit sad. Would be cool if you had some sarcastic quips in there though.

  2. December 3, 2010 at 3:55 pm

    no sadness here…genuinely happy for her. if you want some sarcasm read the rest of my posts, especially the first letter, which is to the same girl.

  3. December 3, 2010 at 8:41 pm

    There is a lot of this going on. I figure people are more like insects than we give ourselves credit for. People like you, that look at the past and don’t just act in the moment, are rare.

    I’m not entirely sure if that is a good or bad thing.

  4. December 4, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    My first boyfriend just got engaged too! We’re not really talking anymore, though, so I didn’t expect notification. I’m not quite as serene as you are about the whole thing, but I do hope they are genuinely happy. Otherwise they need to break that *$%# up.

  5. 5 blackvelvetsea
    December 6, 2010 at 10:58 am

    Nice letter. Its amazing how we can still remember old stories, and how others forget. Does being single feed it or just the impact of how a story goes between two people, or that after all people don’t really forget what they go through and when they do its all deliberate?

    Have a nice day!

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